Yup, I don't understand how people don't get this.

I'm a gay man, and when I was about 11 I first realized I didn't "like the boobies" as you say. I tried desperately to start liking them.

But I couldn't.

One morning in church when I realized the preacher was spouting hellfire and brimstone about me, and I finally realized what the word homosexual meant, I bolted up out of our family pew and lost my breakfast in the men's room.

I can't tell you how many times I cried myself to sleep praying that God would make me straight.

The entire ex ex-gay world is filled with stories by Christians who struggled their entire lives trying not to be gay, to no avail.

They tried desperately and prayed desperately, but God didn't change their sexual orientation.

It's a mystery to me why Christians keep insisting that such a thing is possible. All the evidence says that it isn't possible.

But they have to insist that being gay is a choice, because if it isn't a choice their entire theology collapses around them.

Meanwhile, kids cry themselves to sleep and face rejection by their families when they grow up.