You’re one up on me! What an odd little thought, and it never occurred to me until I read this passage, but no straight man has ever asked me or even approached asking me about my sex life.

I’m thinking back to a really good friend who spent hours talking to me about the problems he was having with his wife in bed, not explicit detail but enough that I understood what he meant. His marriage was strong, but their sex life wasn’t clicking, and he wanted a neutral ear.

I don’t want to sound too negative, because when my boyfriend and I went over to their place for dinner, which we did frequently, we were both warmly included.

But let me tell you, if I ever brushed up against the topic of my own sexuality, my friend zoomed off in another direction, clearly anxious and uncomfortable. I’m not blaming him, like I say he was a very good friend and so was his wife. It’s just interesting to see how these attitudes work even when they are probably subconscious attitudes.