You make a lot of important observations here! It's funny, Jamie Nelson published a story in P&P this morning that at alludes to some of your points but from a younger perspective . He isn't writing about isolation, but he does mention a certain scarcity mentality that queer men often have to deal with when seeking relationships.

It's just a coincidence that we published both stories at the same time, but they go well together as companion pieces, I think.

That said, I'm rooting for you!