You know, when I left Detroit a few years ago, I also left (without realizing it) having partnered sex. It's not like I was a sexual dynamo in Detroit, but I dated sometimes, and I had a couple flings in the year before I moved.

I've never been a huge fan of anonymous sex, and less so as I age, so Grindr and similar hookup apps don't have much appeal for me. But even if they did, Grindr is a desert out here in the country where I live now.

I'd need to drive almost an hour to hook up with a gay man who isn't closeted, a Republican, or something else just too incompatible with who I am for intimacy to have a shot. I remember myself at 25, and I think, "You know an hour's drive or political affiliation wouldn't have made any difference to the young man you used to be."

But I'm not that young man anymore. So I pretty much never have sex. And ... for better or worse, I just can't be arsed, as the Brits say.

A friend of mine suggested that I ask my doctor to check my testosterone levels in case I need supplements, presuming my low sex drive is unhealthy.

But I don't know if I WANT to have a powerful sex drive again.

So, I guess I'm not raising my hand, but I honestly don't know if I should or not.