You know, the funny thing is that among sexuality researchers, it’s more than well known that sexual attraction in humans exists on a spectrum, and that people who are strictly polarized toward a specific gender are probably actually in a minority.

If we define bisexual as significant but not necessarily equal or simultaneous sexual attraction to both men and women, then some researchers even posit that more than half of all humans are bisexual.

Acting on attractions is a different question, of course, but behavior is really outside the definition as far as I’m concerned.

I do look forward to a day when questions of sexual orientation stop being so important, so fraught; to a day when all that really matters is that some human falls in love with some other human, and nobody stops to consider what that might mean in terms of wearing labels of sexual orientation.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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