You know, just because we don’t fully understand something doesn’t mean it’s not important. Given the way natural selection works, menopause would not exist if postmenopausal women did not contribute significantly to the survival of the species.

Postmenopausal women exist in nature because postmenopausal women matter. Count on it.

But I don’t want to stop there, because it’s also important to remember the naturalism fallacy. In many ways, nature is a neutral force, neither good nor bad. Just because something exists in nature doesn’t mean it’s desirable. Just because something doesn’t exist doesn’t mean it’s not desirable.

One of the best parts of being human is that in some ways we have learned to transcend nature.

We’ve learned spiritual fulfillment and joy can be found outside the restrictive structures woven into our genes.

I say that as a childless man who is still physically capable of fathering a child but not socially capable. I’m too old to be a good dad and I know it and mourn it. Sometimes I wish an off switch would have made that inevitable for me so that I could have dealt with it once and for all. Put it behind me.

I’m not saying I wish male menopause existed, but it’s something to think about.

Sorry for all the rambling.

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