You know, it’s funny. We gay men and queer people of all stripes talk about hookup culture all the time. Debates rage, great art is produced, and constructs and ways of being are hammered out.

Most of us aren’t trying to reproduce a sort of same-sex replica of the way things have always been, because we think the way things always have been needs work.

And yes, we make mistakes and we work on models that end up being less than healthy, and we move on and we think about it try other things. We’ve only been at this since the mid-to-late 1950s in any serious fashion.

So, when shallow articles come out (and I don’t mean yours!) that criticize hookup culture as if we don’t know it’s happening with some people, I want to remind folks that we’re doing serious work, and thinking deep thoughts, and making enormous amounts of progress.

Young gay men today, among other queer people, are happier, more fulfilled, more loving, and maybe even more spiritual then any generation yet post Stonewall.

And we’ll keep getting better as people like you do the hard lifting to keep making that happen.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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