You know, it’s a rare day that passes without someone criticizing me for “playing the victim card” or “acting like a victim.”

What they mean, I suppose, is they want me to stop writing about systemic LGBTQ inequality, to stop pointing out examples of LGBTQ people being harmed by homo/transphobic institutions and belief systems.

But I’m the least victimized person I know. Rather than lying down and accepting injustice, I have for most of my life been an activist of some sort or another, raising my voice constantly in outraged protest.

One odd thing, though. I understand and expect that people invested in homophobic belief systems like conservative Christianity would oppose LGBTQ activism and use rhetoric (like victim-card rhetoric) to oppose it.

Sadly, though, many people who level the word victim against me to dismiss what I have to say are other LGBTQ people.

I would suggest they are the true victims, accepting their own oppression and asking activists to acquiesce as well.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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