You know, as old and grizzled a reprobate as I am, I missed the whole hanky code thing, I believe.

I know some people used them, but for me, it was never much more than myth, even in the 90s, and even in lower Manhattan’s meat-packing district at 2 AM. Lol

Not that I’m admitting to trawling the meat-packing district at 2 AM, mind you.

Lawsey me, no!

Did you ever read my answer about Hell on Quora?

Totally underground sex club in that neighborhood, back before the hipsters made it chic.

I was there purely for research purposes.


A shroud of Turin hanky would have been just the thing!

Love it.

Fred Shirley, do young gay men even know coded hankies were a thing?

And Strexit , were they ever a thing your side of the pond?

I have a little experience with gay clubs in London, but only a little.

No real sense of what ordinary UK gay culture might have been like.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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