You could be describing both my grandmothers! Their trad wife experiences centered around poverty, backbreaking domestic labor (ever try feeding a family of 7 without refrigeratiom?) wartime factory work, and later an expectation that they go back home and let men speak for them and run things again.

My mom's mom accepted that and even held up her submission as admirable.

My dad's mom turned into hell on wheels.

I live in Michigan, which is blue only because densely populated Southeast Michigan is blue. Everywhere else, including where I live, is deep red.

In the weeks proceeding the election, I could not turn on the TV or watch a video without a certain ad playing. A youngish woman with a sharp Michigan twang explained that she had never before voted for Trump, but life was better when he was in office. Then she told her fellow women that she's not worried about abortion rights because — "everybody knows Trump speaks his mind and he's promised not to criminalize abortion."

Never mind that he engineered the Supreme Court to do exactly that, I guess.

I mean, she's a actor, but she looked and sounded like a sincere Michigan woman giving her sisters permission to vote against themselves.

And it worked.