Yes! When my partner’s parents became outraged because we had gotten together, I had to deal with how I would react.

The key thing for me to understand was that my partner was suffering. He loved his parents even though he was upset with them, and he would always love his parents.

It wouldn’t have done me any good to trash talk them, act out against them, or take my justified anger out on them.

They were his parents, not mine.

I concentrated on the two of us, and on loving him. I didn’t do anything that might make him feel like I was questioning his loyalty to his family.

And I feel that was the right thing to do. He was able to love his parents even while disagreeing with them, while continuing to love me without any obstacles from me.

I think that was the right thing to do for him. and ultimately it was the right thing to do for his family, who now accept him.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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