In my twenties, I found myself in a long-term relationship with a much older man.

I found the situation to be completely ordinary. Other people? Not so much.

I know some people probably thought I was reinforcing negative stereotypes.

I wonder, though, if we gay men aren’t reacting to a trope when we instinctually react with distaste to relationships that feature large age gaps.

After all, go back a few decades, and I think it’s fair to say that that sort of thing was rather more than expected.

Are we pushing back, trying to “normalize” ourselves to broader communities, or are current tastes just part of an ongoing cycle of trends and fashion?

I don’t know.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.