Yes!

As a business owner, I once had responsibility for sales. Not only did I have to perform emotional labor when calling and pitching customers, acting cheerful and optimistic even when I wasn’t, I had to do the same thing with my employees.

I had to project warmth and caring even when I was in a bad mood. With my business partners I had even more emotional labor to perform, projecting the right amount of confidence to be an inspirational leader, even if all I really wanted to do was go home and take a nap.

So when I did go home? How much energy did I have for emotion in relationships? I’m sure nobody would be shocked if I said not very much.

I don’t know if there are always good answers to problems stemming from emotional labor, but recognizing what’s going on has to help.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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