Yep! My first experience with anal sex was traumatic and terrible. And my partner DID communicate! He didn’t assault me, he asked first and even tried to prepare.

And it still wasn’t enough.

Neither one of us knew what we were doing, and the horrible pain of it all put me off for years.

I don’t think some men understand how terribly painful the experience can be if it’s not done right.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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