Wow, you sound almost exactly like a self-loathing gay Christian.

So here's some information for you. Lots of us gay men are proudly, loudly effeminate. Whether you like it or not, that's part of our identity, our culture. If that means sometimes people are going to wrongly assume you're gay, well I don't feel the least bit sorry for you.

There's nothing wrong with being gay, despite you quoting from the Bible to suggest otherwise.

We gay men will define our own subcultures, and we will very likely continue transgressing what society considers to be proper gender expression.

Which means if you take on elements of our subcultures, people may very well mistake you for one of us.

Whether you continue to whine or not.