Who ARE these men who say they can't have sex because no woman will have them? I can't wrap my mind around it.

Look, physically, I'm no prize. I'm quite short, at the extreme low end of biologically "normal." And I've never been considered classically handsome. Something about my face doesn't quite make the mark. Not that I feel a need to put a bag over my head; I'm ordinary looking, but nobody's gonna pick me out of a lineup for a handsome prize.

Personality? I do okay. I can be charming for short stretches, but let's be blunt. I have autism and while I can mask that, it always shows. I was surprised when I was diagnosed in my 40s, but all my close friends were like, "Duh. Of course."

And yet ...

Despite my short stature, less than stunning face, and less than sparkling personality, I have never lacked sexual/romantic partners.

OK, so I'm gay and my partners have always been men, but addressing your point about women doing the asking out, I've been asked out by women rather a lot.

Actually, my last boyfriend happened because a woman asked me out. I declined by telling her I was gay, so she set me up with her best guy pal.

So, I have to ask myself, with all the strikes nature threw at me, why have I not lacked sexual partners, and why do others claim nobody will have them?

I've looked at photos of some rather loud incel types. Frankly, many of them seem to have more natural advantages than I do.

So ... yeah. I don't get it.