When people say that to me, I actually feel something like a frisson of self doubt. Something in my mind gnaws at me, like, “maybe you don’t know me as well as you think you do.” Which, of course is negative self-dialogue that comes from exactly the same assumption the “compliment” is rooted in. That something is wrong with being neuro-atypical.

It is indeed something I wish people would not say.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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