When my sister and I were little children in the 70s, people always praised her for how pretty she was. People praised me for being smart. Looking back at old photos, we were equally cute.

Today, she has a master’s degree and is very accomplished in her field. And what do people still routinely comment on? That she’s very pretty. (Which is true, but not the point.)

Men and women are judged by and praised for very different qualifies. It’s not right that men should be praised solely for their accomplishments while women are judged for their (perceived) beauty or lack thereof.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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