What an amazing story, Tara Livingston! I’m tagging in some other Christians in this comment in the hopes that you might be able to connect with them.
Ken Wilson is a minister in Ann Arbor, MI, formerly associated with the evangelical Vineyard movement. He and Emily Swan now pastor their own independent church. The back story is that Ken was fired after he refused to fire Emily when she married her wife.
John A. Giurin is an LGBT-affirming Canadian minister whom I think you’ll find you have a lot in common with.
Done with Religion is the nom de plume of a couple of very fine Christian men who write about their spirituality and about how they left institutional Christianity because of what they perceive as its failings.
But I don’t want to put words in people’s mouths. Talk among yourselves.;-)