What a lovely experience! It took me a little longer to experience really good sex for the first time. I mean I'd had lovely encounters with guys (boys, really) since I came out in my late teens, but most of my experiences fell more on the fumbling side than the skilled side. Sweet is nice, but it's not necessarily the hottest of sex.

Then when I was like 20 and 21, I had brief affairs with a couple men who were highly skilled but more into pleasing themselves than into pleasuring their partner, namely me. LOL. I mean, I learned a lot from them and I'm glad I had the experiences, but ...

I think I was 23 or 24 when I finally met a guy who put the whole package together. He was highly skilled at the mechanics of sex, plus he had this extraordinary focus on stimulating and drawing out my pleasure. My pleasure was central to his pleasure, which was an epiphany to me.

We didn't become boyfriends, but we did have sex several times, and ever since I've tried to model my bedroom behavior on his.