We humans love to latch on to simple answers to complex questions, when the answers likely need to be as complex as the questions.

I remember reading an essay a couple years ago, and I wish I could remember where, in which a transgender woman advised taking a less rigorous approach to ideology. She wrote that she had stopped trying to frame her experiences (to herself) in some kind of overarching system of thinking that makes everything "make sense."

She wished others could try that, could just recognize that people who experience gender differently exist, and have existed far back into the mists of time without harming people or "civilization."

She wrote that it's OK to know that without knowing why. She wrote that she's stopped trying to figure out the why's and that she doesn't need to embrace or endorse academic theories to embrace herself.

She didn't cast shade on theorists or those who love investigating the human condition, but she did remind her readers that one's humanity should come first.

On a practical level, she noted that embracing and celebrating people will always be more effective and powerful than arguing for a particular ideology.