traceybyfire, I think we men kind of DO talk about masturbation, or at least we acknowledge a lot more to one another than we used to when I was growing up. A lot of the shame seems to have evaporated.
Or at least that’s how I experience things as a man in my 50s. Your mileage may vary!
BTW, here’s a humorous but serious advice column I recently wrote — to a young man with a question about masturbation and porn. You may enjoy it!