You’re not puzzled by the hate, LaMar Going. You’re disingenuously denying reality. Your piece isn’t an attempt to open dialogue.
It’s unabashed, dishonest propaganda.
The fact of the matter is that the LDS Church is one of the most powerful, well funded forces of organized anti-LGBTQ oppression and persecution in the United States today.
If there’s one thing we queer people know plainly from personal experience and long history, it’s that any initiative to legally better our lives will face the fierce and bitter opposition of the LDS Church, its wealthy lobby, and its sophisticated media savvy.
The LDS Church is our avowed and historically proven enemy. We understand viscerally how much the Mormon establishment despises us.
In regions of the US where the LDS Church holds the reigns of political power, they consistently exercise that power to hurt us.
Within the Church, queer people are treated terribly. Queer children grow up terrified and traumatized by a religion that reviles them and ultimately excludes them if they are open about themselves.
In places where the Church is dominant, that often means exclusion from meaningful participation in much of secular society too.
But you don’t come here to Th-Ink Queerly — to our space — in humility to beg forgiveness or to offer to make amends.
No, you come here to tell us that we’re all wrong, that we’re misjudging you Mormons, who actually are oppressed people yourselves.
You don’t get brownie points for having been nice to a dying man once decades ago. That’s basic. That’s minimal human decency. That’s expected.
Your being nice to a dying man has nothing to do with the fact that the LDS Church oppresses us queer people.
Tell us instead that your congregation fully welcomes a married gay or lesbian couple.
Tell us that two boys who are dating are blessed by their bishop and sent on a mission with the full encouragement of the Church.
Tell us publicly that you condemn the homophobia of the LDS Church. Tell us all publicly that LDS anti-queer theology is wrong. Tell us publicly that you disagree with it and that you call on the Church to change it immediately.
Tell us that you are certain that our loving relationships are not sinful and that the LDS Church must repent of its historical defamation.
Then we can begin dialogue.
Don’t you dare come here instead (as you have) and tell us we’ve actually got it all wrong, that you are really peaches and cream, and we’ve simply misunderstood you.
That’s nonsense. Don’t insult our intelligence and our dignity.
The LDS Church owes us queer people a deep and heartfelt apology, a complete change in its ways, and a repudiation of its hateful, homophobic theologies.
That’s the way to dialogue. If that’s what you’re trying to do, then go ahead and get started.
Forgive us if we won’t believe you until we see some evidence of your sincerity.
We’re all too accustomed to your boot grinding us into the pavement.
Your propaganda attempt isn’t going to get past me. I call bullshit. I won’t let you get away with it.