This is why, when I pen my advice column for queer youth, I never, ever tell somebody what I think they should do.

I lay out the alternatives, talk about options, and ask the questioner to carefully consider what’s best for them.

Gurus and coaches who tell us they have all the answers raise huge red flags.

Just no.

Great observations, thanks.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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