If you’re already at the stage where you are questioning your gender — even if that just means Googling “Am I Trans?” and then slamming your laptop shut before you get a search result —congratulations, you’ve already thought about your gender more than most cis people will in their entire lifetimes.
This is so insightful.
I’m a gay man who when I was younger struggled quite a bit with gender presentation issues. In other words I got bullied for being a sissy boy.
Some of my mannerisms and speech habits were received as effeminate. I didn’t like it, and I struggled against it for many years. Later in life, I said f*** it and just let myself talk and act any way I wanted to.
These days, if I listen to my recorded voice when I’m speaking naturally and not paying attention to myself, I recognize something of a feminine lilt.
Just me. That’s who I am, and I’m cool with it.
But you know what? I am a cisgender gay man who has never once questioned my gender identity, not for one single second. Questioning my gender simply never occurred to me; that’s how rock solid and unshakable my identity is, despite the fact that some people perceive me as feminine.
So I really get what you’re saying that if somebody does reach the stage of questioning, it’s unusual enough to ask if maybe something is going on.