…ere is a critical mass of gay men who have lived through a nightmarish mind fuck for decades, and a lot more than a few of us, poz as well as neg, are finding it more than a little difficult to simply “get over it already”. Perhaps that is one of the reasons that no one really talks about this too much anymore. The unspok…
Allan Rae (alto)
This is important to talk about, alto. Getting over it is something I know I’ll never do. That doesn’t mean I see myself as a helpless victim or that I think I’m damaged in ways that prevent me from functioning and contributing. But if I don’t acknowledge to myself (at least) the trauma I experienced during the plague years, then I can’t move forward.
I probably write because of the trauma. My entire life, as a matter of fact, as been defined by the epidemic. So “getting over it” isn’t something I even want to do, were I capable of it or not. It’s part of me.
And that’s fine.