"They’re deadnaming her and calling her a “man” and a “he.” They think she deserves it after the way she’s talked about trans people."

I see similar things like this on Twitter constantly, and not limited to transgender people. For example, it's an open secret in Washington DC that Senator Lindsay Graham is a closeted gay man.

Given that he pushes anti-LGBTQ and homophobic policy and law all the time, that makes me very angry. I feel justified outing him for his hypocrisy.

What I don't feel justified doing is attacking him with homophobic slurs, mocking him as effeminate, or whatever similar behavior.

But tons of people on Twitter apparently think it's perfectly okay to do things like that. When queer people do it, I sigh and grumble to myself. I mean, I guess I get why they're doing it, but I don't see how they're helping by weaponizing homophobic slurs for real.

Then when I see cis/straight people doing it, even when they are self-described queer allies, my hackles rise to defcon 4.

Just like with misgendering or dead naming Caitlyn Jenner, there's just no excuse for it.

Anti-gay and anti-trans slurs, dead naming, etc, are not acceptable because they hurt people, and when we engage in that behavior to advance our own objectives, I don't think we're advancing anything good.