They take but they don’t give.

That’s an important part of it, Shannon Eubanks Howell. It’s weird, because I’m not a person who values monogamy or reviles a casual roll in the hay. Nor was I loathe then to being admired and desired for my looks. (Talk about how time flies! Those days are surely part of my past.)

That’s why my subtitle is, “Knowing it when I see it.”

It’s as hard for me to define what made that guy predatory as it was for Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart to define obscenity.

Some things you just can’t put your finger on. But they’re not less real for their obscure borders and hazy outlines.


Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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