James Finn
1 min readMar 15, 2021

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That would be a deal breaker for me! I can’t remember the last time I was awake at 2:00 a.m.

I wonder how much of this is chest thumping , efforts to appear youthful that turn into caricature, or copycatism.

Remember when walks on the beach and wine under the stars were on every profile?

These days it’s microbrews and rock climbing.

I have a six pack of Short’s Huma Lupa Liscious in the fridge right now, so I have nothing inherently against microbrews, but I don’t think I’d advertise that on a dating profile.

I’d want to be myself, which would never include jetting off to Argentina on a moment’s notice. I don’t want to impress people. And I think that’s a temptation a lot of middle-aged daters succumb to. Maybe because it feels like everybody else is doing it and they don’t want to lose out.

But the silver lining here might be that if you do see that one quiet, thoughtful guy not boasting about his jet ski, maybe you’ve found a real keeper.

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James Finn
James Finn

Written by James Finn

James Finn is an LGBTQ columnist, a former Air Force intelligence analyst, an alumnus of Act Up NY, and an agented but unpublished novelist.

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