That 50/50 split misconception may be the biggest problem bisexual people face in terms of public understanding. The prefix bi is clearly binary, (lol!) so when we think about it only casually, it sounds like there has to be an even split. Bisexual folks must like guys and gals equally.

Of course that’s not the case, just as the misconception that bisexual people are more prone to cheating on partners isn’t the case.

The sexual binary is itself a misconception. Data seem to show that most people experience sexual attraction at least sometimes across genders. Meaning most people might technically fit certain definitions of bisexual.

Identifying as bisexual is a different story, of course, but knowing how common diverse sexual attraction actually is has got to be a critical part of de-fanging biphobia.

There’s no such thing as being gay enough or not gay enough — or at least there shouldn’t be.

We all need to start realizing how common bisexual attraction is.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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