Thank you for your very thoughtful comments, Dave Wayne. I’m glad my writing resonates with you. That’s what I try hard to achieve, so if I manage it sometimes, I’m really glad.

My path was similar to yours. In fact, funny you mention it, because I posted a story just this morning about how I accepted my family religion without question as a child, which I suppose is what most people do. I accepted it even though it angered and terrified me.

So, that path was hard. I mean the path to rejecting the religion I grew up with and embracing something different. Like you, I embraced a sort of secular humanism centered on love, compassion, and care for one’s fellow humans.

But a different struggle of mine has been learning to walk a different path, one that accepts that many people of faith are every bit as decent, humane, loving, and tolerant as I could ever expect or want.

In some ways, that road is harder to walk than the one I trod as a frightened teenager and young adult. I don’t always get it right, of course, but I DO keep sharing my process and progress, and I’m glad you find some value in that.


Ken Wilson Emily Swan John A. Giurin Done with Religion Stephen Sovie

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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