Thank you, DHBogucki.

Considering the source, I consider that to be high praise, indeed!

The woman who asked me the question that prompted me to write this was suffering badly. Her husband had just died unexpectedly and she was disconsolate.

The only thing I knew to do for her was to share my own story.

I don’t know if it helped. We all have to grieve alone — ultimately.

Maybe having faith that the process is finite can help a little. I hope so.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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