Thank you, David. Is this a private comment? I can’t tell. I received two email notifications in the past about private comments but I was never able to actually read them.

In any case, private or not, don’t worry. I’m not offended in the least.

I know I engaged in ad hominem remarks, of course. I intended to. My point was not to attempt to change this woman’s mind, a task I believe would be impossible.

Her worldview is such, it seems, that she’s incapable of rational morality.

The point of my engagement was to demonstrate that immorality and to model the sort of shaming behavior that one would use to object to a person so lacking in humanity and decency.

We’re never going to convince immoral, irrational people like her to become decent and virtuous.

We have to shame them and point out their moral deficiencies instead, exactly as we’ve done with racists and other such bigots.

They have to be afraid of the social consequences of expressing homophobic bigotry, just as avowed racists are now afraid.

We’re really at that point in the game now, I think, where social ostracization is becoming an important tool.

On the other hand, I do hear you. If you think my tone is too over the top, then I’ll consider how to moderate it.

I wish I had the time to fly to Australia and attend that party. I’d love it, I’m sure.

Swapping stories is one of my favorite things in the universe, and I’m sure you have some dillies.

Thanks so much. :-)


Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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