Sure, and as a gay man who has never felt even a flicker of sexual attraction toward a woman (although I have had sex with women), I understand clearly the difference between genuine attraction and orientation.

I’ve had sexual experiences with guys who tell me they’re straight, and I have no reason to believe they were being dishonest with me when they claimed not to feel at all turned on by other guys.

Sometimes a blow job is just really nice. Attraction or no attraction.

What’s funny to me is sometimes when I write about that, I’ll attract a bevy of my fellow drama queens screaming at me that those guys must be at least “a little gay.”

I don’t know why people have such a hard time separating casual sexual activity from orientation and identity.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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