Perhaps I’m misreading what you’ve written, John M. Dixon, but it almost sounds to me like you’re trying to say that good people should tolerate or respect homophobes so long as they aren’t “militant.”
If that’s what you’re trying to say, I have to respond like this:
That’s utter nonsense.
It doesn’t take “militancy” to destroy lives. It doesn’t take militancy to promote LGBTQ youth suicide and homelessness.
It doesn’t take militancy to dehumanize us.
So long as people hold attitudes like the attitude I think you hold, then homophobia will continue to be a cancer in our societies.
No, I will not offer the hand of friendship to a person who believes there is something wrong with me because I happen to be a member of a biological minority.
I will not tolerate evil like that.
It’s people who do tolerate evil, and counsel others to do so, who allow evil to continue, who allow innocent humans to be hurt.
I reject the sentiment behind your comment. I’m a better person than that. A more decent person.
I will not be one of those people who accepts homophobia or other, similar forms of hatred and destructiveness.
I will take a stand.
I have taken one.
People who won’t stand with those of us who reject evil are part of the problem.