Parenting a child who has challenges is so hard. You want to protect them from everything. But you must protect them from your protection. And that’s so hard to accept.

The boy I raised did not have autism, but he did have serious mental health challenges, and I struggled with his very real need for independence.

It all worked out fine in the end, but there are no easy answers.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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