One particular kink that has never appealed to me in the least is water sports. I’ve had some partners who were interested in it, but I could just never make it part of our fun, because personally it ick-ed me out, in either a giving or a receiving sense.

But I was watching some very well made professional porn the other day that included a watersports scene, and instead of fast forwarding by it like I might be inclined, I let it play. And I found that I actually found it interesting.

I’m not saying I will ever try it for real, but I do observe that my previous strong aversion no longer exists.

It’s interesting how likes and dislikes change.

Similarly, I once had an older lover who was into the daddy/boy fetish. I wasn’t at all, but it didn’t turn me off so I let him do his role play thing, and after a while I started understanding what people saw in it and even enjoyed it a little bit. Though I’ve never felt inclined to seek out a partner for that reason.

I guess just keeping an open mind is important.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot.

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