Oh, my God, conservative Christian purity culture! How it pushes this ridiculous trope that men are captive to their sexual urges and that women must stop tempting helpless men to immoral or even violent behavior.

Your experiences in nudist resorts and sex-positive clubs mirror my own in the gay male world.

I've often walked or danced barely clad through throngs of gay men who were sexually attracted to me — to never once find so much as a finger violating my personal space, to never once fear sexual violence.

The idea that men cannot control themselves in the face of breasts or any other sort of nudity is ridiculous. We should be teaching that rather than making excuses for sexual violence and bad behavior that falls short of violence.