Lucas, in my 50s, myself, I know a lot of queer youth and do quite lot of informal counseling and advising. I think you’re absolutely right about the need to come out to peer groups first. In many cases I actually see the scenario you describe take place. Oh, the peer group may not be there physically with the child and the parents, but they’re there in spirit, and that helps a lot. When a teen or young adult has thr solid support and love of close friends, coming out to family is much less traumatic. Sadly I some cases, there are still many environments where coming out to peer groups isn’t practical. It all varies widely by geography and by school type.

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