Love this! When queer activist types like me first started conceiving in the late 90s of same-sex marriage as realistically legally possible, many of us (including me) were underwhelmed.

Buy into heteronormativity? Participate in the patriarchy? It was all just so suspect.

We wanted to create our own institutions and ways of being. I for one was a little taken aback by how the queer populace demanded inclusion, but I’m sure I should not have been.

I love how you’ve been so creative about defining your own personal institution of marriage, and I think that’s what it’s all about.