I've spent time in the Caribbean, and the heat and humidity really are shocking. I know people get used to it, but adapting is not easy.

When I first arrived in Jamaica , all I wanted to do was got out of my stylish American sportswear and put on my loosest athletic shorts and a tee or tank top — then drink some coconut water and wilt.

I may have done a Blanche Deveraux impersonation as I fanned myself. 🤣

I never thought twice about wearing loose clothing or ditching my tight underwear. As a man, I'm conditioned to believe that's none of anybody's business, that nobody has the right to intrude into my personal space by judging how I dress, at least in casual spaces, especially in a beach resort environment.

It's kind of appalling, really, that women don't enjoy the same freedom. You clearly had to struggle with yourself to dress the way you wanted to dress, to dress in a practical way that made sense for where you were and what you were doing.

Let's go somewhere else with this too. Nipples aren't inherently sexual, but what if they are perceived by a lot of people as sexual? This is so terrible?

Sexy men often strut around beach resorts in skimpy clothing that either show off their nipples or reveal them entirely. They sometimes wear swimsuits that subtly (or not so subtly) emphasize their genitals.

Does anyone judge those men? Maybe. But they'd never say anything. They wouldn't dare.

Men are presumed to have full bodily autonomy. Criticizing a man for how he dresses, so long as he's not breaking the law (or office policy), is just not done. It's not OK. It's not civil.

Women are not the equal of men in that respect. We have a lot of work to do.