I’ve seen it work that way with a lot of queer male couples too. I mean, sure, gay guys have a reputation for sleeping around and not committing, and the reputation is accurate with many. But data show that a lot of gay men are monogamous or serially monogamous and that they pair up pretty fast.

I can say for myself that I’ve always moved fast, probably too fast, sometimes with good results, sometimes not.

I think it’s good to look closely at ourselves like you’re doing and ask ourselves why we pair up the way we do.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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