I've helped bale hay a few times, and can I just say I can't imagine doing it drunk or hung over? Lol! It's hot, sweaty work to begin with, and that's a major understatement! Then add alcohol? God, my head's splitting just thinking about it.

Thanks so much for sharing all this. I've never had a gay therapist, though I I had a pretty cool cis-straight man therapist once. Still, there were disconnects, like the time I was discussing "homoerotic" art and he thought I meant pornography. He'd never encountered the word homoerotic in a positive or neutral sense. That reminded me that we weren't always on the same page, and he didn't always know what I was talking about.

If I could do things over again, I'd follow your advice and find a gay male therapist.

Thanks for the story!