I’m thinking of a young couple, friends of mine, a man and and woman in their mid thirties with two young children. They both actively parent, and he’s a terrific father, as involved as anyone could be.

She’s a medical technician in a rare field that required a lot of training, and she makes big money, more than he does.

They have a fulfilling life, neither working too many hours, plenty of time for hobbies and family and art.

They’re both conservative politically and would tell you they oppose feminism on principle.

Clearly, they both benefit from it, arguably him more than her. He gets to be a real dad, and he isn’t burdened with the sole responsibility of supporting his family.

So go figure.

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Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com

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