I'm so sorry about your grief! And I'm sorry people are so unreliable. I've experienced that myself after the deaths of very close loved ones. I don't think it's so much that people are cruel or thoughtless as they are ... forgetful, busy, etc.

I have experienced that myself a little recently as I've been recovering from a serious illness. I was hospitalized for about a week starting almost a month ago, and my recovery has been pretty difficult. Or let's say, at least, it's gone a lot slower than I thought it would go.

I'm finally starting to turn a corner this week, I think. (fingers crossed!) The first couple weeks out of the hospital were really bad, but it felt like that once I was discharged and the first couple days had passed, people stopped checking in, stopped asking me how I was doing, etc.

Some people would even say things like, "I'm glad you're feeling better," when I was actually feeling so weak and in pain that I struggled to function.

Hospitals discharge patients as rapidly as possible (because data shows that recovery usually goes faster and safer at home) but people often either don't realize that or fail to consider the implications.

Like with supporting the grief stricken, supporting a seriously ill friend requires at least a certain amount of focus — an amount that might be present in intention but lacking in attention.

I wish it were not so, but such is human nature, I'm afraid.

I'm very sorry about your loss and your grief. I wish I could lessen it!

Please do your best to be well and reach out when you need to. I wish I could do or say more than that.