I wrote a response to Kirchick myself shortly after his article came out. I wrote a similar response to Andrew Sullivan's similar opining, focusing on the irony of his writing from his tony DC and P-Town addresses, relaxing with a $15 cocktail quite likely delivered by a Latino pool boy making minimum wage plus tips.

Of course wealthy white men inhabiting privileged bubbles have no idea what goes on in the queer world at large.

And progress is always ephemeral. Their essays didn't age well considering the backlash rolling over everyone. A high school senior delivering a valedictory address in a relatively liberal Florida community had to talk about his curly hair rather than talk about being gay. His principal had forbidden that.

Could anyone have imagined a couple years ago something that ludicrous? But it really happened, and things are probably going to get worse before or if they get better.

That's just one example.

We LGBTQ people have lots of friends and allies. That's wonderful, but it's something we should think about strategically rather than complacently.

How can we all, acting together with our allies, make things better for everyone?