I wonder if something about the biological makeup of some gay men changes this. I identify powerfully with what you’re writing. I keep wanting to say, “Me too. That’s exactly how I feel.”

When my partners desire me powerfully and obviously, my own desire shoots through the roof. Conversely, the thought of intimacy with an apathetic partner really bores me.

Writer. Runner. Marine. Airman. Former LGBTQ and HIV activist. Former ActUpNY and Queer Nation. Polyglot. Middle-aged, uppity faggot. jamesfinnwrites@gmail.com