The thought itls hardly original on my part. Practically every gender studies professional anywhere that I know about recognizes that people despise gay men by comparing them to women. If you don’t see that, I don’t know where you’ve been.
Homophobic people practically always disparage gay men by comparing them in unfavorable terms to women.
This is hardly news. I’m surprised you don’t know anything about it. I have understood the connection since I was an effeminate 5 year old.