I think this is such a perceptive point. To traditionally masculine men, expressing emotional pain is considered weakness. I've confronted that attitude so many times, personally.

My own art is often full of pain, because it reflects my experiences. I've lived through a lot of pain, and I evoke a lot of it (directly and indirectly) in my fiction and other art.

I've often found it curious or at least interesting that people who seem to most appreciate my fiction are women and other gay men. Sometimes I've thought the phenomenon is mostly about (often unconscious) homophobia, but I don't believe that's a fully satisfying explanation.

It's think it's more about pain being perceived as weakness, and therefore not valued or considered admirable.

I can just see certain men rolling their eyes as they listen to Swift's art, dismissing her in their own minds as weak and therefore not valuable.