I remembered when I was editing this that same-sex couples often had public commitment ceremonies, weddings in all but the legal reality. Remember those?

Apparently, lots of people don't, even though it's not yet been quite a decade since same-sex marriage became legal across the land.

So, Lenny and I registered our official domestic partnership in New York City (under a city law rather than a state law) before Vermont became the first state to offer such a thing. It didn't do us lot of practical good, but it's what we had.

Yesterday, I was looking up the history of NYC's domestic partnership law when I stumbled on a Reddit thread where young people were asking what commitment ceremonies were! As if they're ancient history.

And of course, that's wonderful. I guess it means marriage as a right is so taken for granted that we're already forgetting how we used to deal with the lack of that right.

Thanks for sharing the magic of your pre-marrriage union! It sounds like a really special trip and a really special day. That part of New England is beyond gorgeous anyway, so combining a wedding with it must have just been so special.